Rape, physical and
verbal abuse, and sexual harassment are crimes, that are very difficult to
prove. Children are taught by their parents to smile and be nice on greeting
others. It is natural, in most cases, for males to want a nurturing and trustworthy
female, while females to want a strong and dependable male. The power dynamic,
however, is the cause of many problems, where one person with influence over another,
forces or is accused of forcing non-consenting contact. Noting that, adults,
who work very long hours with limited social opportunities to engage, must
undergo change to protect themselves and their careers.
Males, evolved with a heighten sex drive to preserve humanity,
are taught to approach relationships with confidence and aggression, and to see
a smile as interest and acceptance. Most young males, eager for the sexual
experience, seek numerous short-term contacts, mainly to impress each other.
Males are generally seen by society as potential hunters or bread-winners, and
must attract the female with evidence of such strengths and ambitions. Yet,
social events, favoured by most males, seem to centre around loud music and
dance motion, encouraging touching and discouraging conversations, while the
female seeks and waits for moments to interview the male.
Females, expected to be nurturers and long-term thinkers,
are taught to be pleasant, understanding, and to smile but not taught to kindly
and firmly reject unwanted advances. Most young females, anxious to be the
centre of attention, use physical stimulus with fashion and beauty products to
attract the opposite sex. Females are generally seen as the guardians or
stabilizing force in society, and must attract the male with serious
discussions about the future. Social events preferred by females, knowing that
the male interest is firstly short-term sexual relations, are religious and
educational meetings where the male’s mind can be better examined.
Power to recommend, grade, promote, invite, adds a level of
attractiveness to the male-female equation but normally ends badly, with one
party dissatisfied. A recommendation withheld, a failing grade, a sidestep
promotion, a rejected invitation, for sexual favours will threaten future
earnings. Such relationships can not be trusted as it is based on short-term rewards
and when such is or is not acquired, accusations or claims normally follows.
The female, in such circumstance, has historically be made to suffer, loss of reputation
and job opportunities, while, the male, embolden, targets others. Hence,
powering the predictable “Gender Wars”, as the male is now called to account.
Workplace relationships are traditionally born out of a
devotion to career building, with no time for outside socializing. So, how,
with accusations and the potential for career damage creating an environment of
heighten suspicion, would such consenting adults get to know each other or
pursue relationships? No more late-night work, office parties, close office
doors, confidential meetings, restaurant functions. Hence, recruitment interviews,
executive assistants, insurance agents, bankers, other service consultants and
any type of one-on-one contact involving the opposite gender must change. Society
must teach the female, the danger of flirting or sending mixed messages, having
no interest or having no interest at the moment and mothers, must teach sons to
understand that deceptive smile.
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uses this occasion to comment on topics that have been covered, both academically
and by the mainstream media, to add its opinion and point out investment
opportunity, not to invoke any social action.
